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I love helping others to make babies. I really just want to wake up to make people more fertile every. day. Equal to this, I want to inspire others to gear their bodies toward better health. I want to make women (and men) healthy (for producing babies or not), I want to educate and I share all I know because it makes me happy.
But it is also more than that. It fulfils me – I believe in making a difference and I believe that all have the opportunity to experience optimal health and be fertile.
I’ve got some exciting projects in the pipelines which have had me thinking and pushing ideas around, to get clear on exactly why I do it.
Why do you do it?
What gets you out of bed each day?
Or more to the point, what makes you want to stay in bed each day!?
I’ve come to realise a few things – I’m going to share them with you because although I share so much on here, I have never shared why I do what I do. What do I get out of it? Here are my notes.
Women need solutions for their fertility issues, not bandaids. This is key to better health and more babies.
You see, I believe in pushing boundaries, to explore new ways of integrating treatments, to jump straight into what gets you your baby (or better health, depending on what you’re after) the quickest way. Sometimes ‘fixing’ isn’t the solution, often it’s about moving swiftly and grabbing an opportunity to maximise health, stat. This means working and thinking outside the square.
I need to help women to look at their currently health and know (and seek comfort in) the fact that they are fertile, or at least know how to set themselves up for optimal fertility.
And finally, I know my mission: To help women understand that their health situations, no matter how bad they think those are, can always, always be improved. (Got endometriosis – you can fix it. PCOS? Fix that too.) Better health starts with a single step.
Truth be told – I get a huge kick out of this stuff (as if you haven’t noticed).
So how does this affect you – you might ask? It might be time to get clear on why you do what you do. Or, why you are the way you are? I see a common trend in the clinic – and you may be able to relate to this. A woman hates, and I mean hates her job. But, she wants to fall pregnant so badly, and therefore doesn’t want to leave because she is waiting for the day to fall pregnant and be able walk away. Great. In theory. But if the stress of an awful situation has you down, more often that not, it is impacting every part of your being – and at the forefront is fertility. So while it makes perfect sense to stick it out and wait for the baby to come, reality is, baby may not come until the situation changes. It’s a crazy circle, filled with stress and emotion that isn’t doing anybody any good. I see these same women (after months of begging on my part), where possible, make some changes to their work situation – ask for a 4 day work week, go part time or switch roles altogether, or best of all QUIT (gasp), and BAM like a huge weight dropped off their shoulders, the stress falls off and makes room for the baby – and before they know it, they are pregnant.
It’s time to get clear on what you do and why you do it. Go on – go get a note pad and start, because if things aren’t going to plan, it may be time to find a new game plan. But getting clear on this, will make all the difference in reaching your goals. Sometimes, we don’t get anywhere without a process.
And finally – I heard something this weekend, I just can’t get out of my head because I love it.
“It’s not what you do, it’s why you do it.”
For most of us, we do what we do because we are women and we are designed to do so. And as a woman, a wife, a sister, a daughter and potentially a mother, that can make for so much love and giving. But knowing why you do something makes it all worthwhile. Find out why you do what you do – and if you can’t find a clear answer on it, it might be time to find out why. Changing course never hurt anybody – in fact, the opportunities that can arrive are endless.
Happy hump day!
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Thanks Nat for a very thought provoking blog.
As someone that has been TTC for two and a half years with three miscarriages over that time, I completely relate to the people that absolutely hate their job. I knew it was time for a change well before I started TTC, but it just made sense to tough it out, because hey getting pregnant was supposed to be easy, right? The benefits of staying in my current job seemed to outweigh the negatives of putting myself in a stressful situation of starting a new job and TTC, not to mention the guilt that I know I would feel if I became pregnant not long after starting a new role. Now after all this time, Im starting to realise that it may be another two and half years until I actually get a good outcome, and I can not stay in my current role for that long. Your strategy of writing down why I do what I do is going to really help me move forward and turn a negative situation into a positive outcome.
Do you have any case studies/references that back up the idea that stopping work can actually remove underlying stress and allow you to get pregnant? I have heard a number of people say that is what worked for them, but just afraid to take such an extreme step if it isnt going to produce any good results…
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