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Do you love your hormones enough?

Isn’t it funny how things click into place always just when they should?  Although we may be, at the time none the wiser, hindsight always provides us with the realisation.  There’s been a theme running through me over the past few years.  Not really knowing or digging too far into it, I’ve allowed it to wash through every part of me – through my home life and family, my business, in practice, with my team, and through my blog.  In setting up deliberate structure around my business, I was guided to hone in on my highest values.  In doing so, it became apparent to me, that love was on the very top of my list.  And of course we all have different values, different priorities and various feelings and emotions that propel us.  Funnier though for me was, I never felt like I was a ‘lovey dovey’ type of gal – much like I never thought that what I did was very ‘feminine’ – but as you see (and you may be laughing because could it be any closer to what I do), both these things are central to who I am and what I do.  How we perceive things is up to us.

But with love as my driving force, recognising and most importantly naming this as what drives me most, it’s now come at me like a road train – and continues to come at me thicker and faster than ever before.  So what I’m about to reveal to you, came as no surprise to me, but more so one of those ‘meant to be’ discoveries like so many before it.

Without love, you can never fully heal.

I’ve continued to massage this thought, and found a strong need to weave it through my upcoming event series and helping women reconnect with what matters most has been in the front of my mind.  Chinese Medicine completely encapsulates the idea that health is absolutely 50% physical and 50% emotional, that each organ is attached to a specific emotion and all organs interact to ensure the body is not only integrated but all systems are working in unison.  Now with this in mind, the emotion of the heart is joy (which I see extends to love) and until women completely encapsulate this idea, working on and mending the physical will never complete the job and most of all, your body will tell you over and over.  It’s unlikely that you have made the connection (because that’s my job at the end of the day, not necessarily yours) to just how many women have lost their joy because of long term illness like hormone imbalance or conditions like PCOS?  The love from their life is gone.  Stress, angst and fear crushes love and joy.

Dr Habib Sadeghi elaborates extensively on the need to always address the emotions.  I love him.  He suggests that millions of people are living in a perpetual state of unconfined emotion and that healing all chronic illness, especially women’s reproductive conditions is the secret.  Amen brother!  But it is so very often overlooked especially when we come at things from a scientific approach – because how do we test the emotional ability of the body?  And what’s the solution?  Because we know antidepressants interfere with hormone health too and certainly affect reproductive ability and the band aid approach only serves as a short term solution.  Dr Sadeghi talks about how as women, from an early age girls are taught to somewhat deny their feelings in order to please others and then of course the media influences the mindset and subtly but continuously convinces us to hate our bodies for a host of reasons – not thin enough, not good enough, not toned enough, not hormonally playing the game and so on.  We aren’t taught how to be, imperfect and love ourselves for that.  The expectations placed on women, not necessarily by others but by our biggest critic, ourselves, is spiraling out of control.  Our heads are for at least some part, a mess on the inside as we continue to show up with the ‘shop front’ like we’ve got it all going on, that emotions don’t change day by day and that we can control everything.  We’re living a lie.  Allowing emotions to be felt and dealt with fully is the only way we can not be affected long term by them.  Our bodies are so clever – they don’t forget something that isn’t dealt with, but more so tuck emotions away where they will absolutely manifest and grow like a big black growth, and take up so much room within, it leaves little for other bodily functions to do anything more than a mediocre job.

As women, we need to come back to love.  Unrealistic pressure, not allowing ourselves enough downtime, moving away from this distorted notion that we need to ‘do it all and then some’ and coming back to what is physically possible is a must.  We are not perfect, we can’t actually ever be ‘perfect’.  We’re never going to be, and to think otherwise is the real problem.  Loving yourself enough to realise that perfect is imperfection and that you can forgive yourself for falling short, that being wife of the year, the perfect cleaner, friend, gardener, ideal weight, lover – is all because you aren’t perfect but because you show up and be you.  Accept your body for what it is, the beautiful being that you are and allow this wash of love to permeate everything you do.  Fearing imperfection winds us in the wrong direction.  Self acceptance is they key step towards healing, hormones or otherwise.

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9 Responses to “Do you love your hormones enough?”

  1. jay

    This is so true. For so long I’ve been trying to balance my hormones and get my cycles back, but the whole time I’ve been holding it all in my head, stressing about it, and trying to mentally control my body’s processes. It’s not until I realised that I just had to let go and “trust” that my body could do it on its own without me thinking about it, that they came back. So I do what I can to support my body’s natural processes (food, acupuncture, exercise), and then trust that it will do the rest on its own. And it does!

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  2. Renuka

    I could feel tears welling up while reading this article but couldn’t cry because it just wasn’t the right place/time/day etc. It is so true about loving myself and hopefully, I will learn to embrace my imperfections and turn up to being my best self in 2014. Thanks again Nat. Look forward to Debunking PCOS.

    Renuka

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  3. Sarah

    Just what I needed to hear on a day like today Nat. Hormones all over the place. I will now be emailing you direct. Thank you for sharing the love, you are a true gift!

    Sarah

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  4. Amy ~ OtherWiseLiving

    Wonderful post Nat and so completely true. We need to learn to focus on healing not fighting our bodies. Thank you! xo

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  5. Jayne

    What a fantastic article! After getting married and coming off the pill I felt so much pressure and felt it was so competitive to get pregnant. After another year I feel I’m now in a good place, no competition, finally loving myself again and our relationship is in the best place ever. Couldn’t be happier, hope it’s a sign of good things to come!

    Thank you nat you inspire me so much. Looking forward to seeing you speak in mildura!

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  6. Jess

    Beautiful, so wonderful of you to bring this enlightening perspective into light. Bless.

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  7. eM

    So very true! Love your blog. Thank you x

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  8. 台灣大樂透

    Wonderful site, thanks for sharing !!

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